as you get older, you realize that you’re not always right and there’s so many things you could’ve handled better, so many situations where you could’ve been kinder and all you can really do is forgive yourself and let your mistakes make you a better person.
“Give yourself permission to be a beginner. Everyone starts somewhere, and every person who is really great at what they do was once someone who didn’t know much and struggled. And you’re allowed that. You’re allowed to be a person who doesn’t have all the answers yet. You’re allowed to be imperfect and make mistakes and not have all the tools.It takes time to build skills. It takes time to learn how to navigate new things and develop your strengths. Struggling at something you’ve never done before is human and normal – and it’s okay. You aren’t a failure if it’s overly difficult. You aren’t pathetic or incompetent or shameful. You’re a beginner. You’re still learning. And there’s honor in that. Honor in opening yourself up to new experiences and knowledge. Honor in putting yourself outside your comfort zone so that you can grow into a new, more full version of yourself. So if you’re feeling lost and unprepared, know that it’s just a part of the process. Everyone else has been here before, and they all made it through. You’ll figure everything out along the way. It takes time. And you’re allowed to give yourself that time. It won’t be this overwhelming and difficult forever.”
“Just because something is difficult doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Uncomfortable? Yes. Exhausting and overwhelming and painfully hard? Yes. But not impossible. And it won’t necessarily feel this difficult and debilitating forever. You’ve made it through similar hard things before. You’ve survived every single bad day and every obstacle the universe has ever thrown at you. You’ve survived all the things you felt convinced would break you. Every single one. And this is evidence that you can make it through this too. You don’t have to figure everything out today. You don’t have to solve your whole life tonight. And you don’t have to tackle everything at once. You just have to show up and try. You just have to focus on the most immediate thing in front of you. And you have to trust that you’ll figure out the rest along the way. It’s okay to struggle. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. And its okay to make mistakes. You’re still learning how to navigate this new path. It’s going to take time, and you’re allowed to give yourself that time. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to get all A’s or be the best version of yourself or outperform everyone else. All you have to do is show up and try. It’s always been enough before. It will be enough this time too.”
“Next time someone says to you, ‘if I were you’, stop them and say ‘well you aren’t’.”
— Kanye West (via youreyesopen)
